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Why You Should Avoid Online Dating | CRP

Channel: CRP Archive
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-P19MhsT1k

The speaker argues online dating rewards photogenic looks and message skill rather than real-world presence, so men should build in-person "game" first and only then use the apps as an advantage.

Key points

  • The title is not absolute: online dating is not inherently bad, it just privileges different traits than face-to-face encounters.
  • Apps put the photo first, so women browsing them are reacting to a visual image, not to a man's presence, personality, or confidence.
  • The speaker claims women on dating apps are a self-selecting group that prioritizes looks; a woman who values presence over looks tends to drift away from the apps.
  • Online success depends on two easily mastered skills: good (curated, not necessarily accurate) photos and strong direct-message game.
  • Real-life attraction needs a different and harder skill set: conversation, dominant presence, and self-confidence, with many more variables to master.
  • The failure mode: a man with strong online game but weak in-real-life game attracts women online, bombs on the actual dates, and gets frustrated.
  • His prescribed fix is to practice approaching women in person (street, campus) and accept bombing dozens of times before improving, the same iteration that made him good online.
  • Once a man is good at real-world game, online dating becomes a "boon" and an open world of possibilities, since everyone on the apps is explicitly looking for a partner.

Reception

  • Largely appreciative; several call the advice articulate, persuasive, and a good reminder of basics.
  • Strong agreement that looks help but "game" matters, with one viewer noting women lack game of their own.
  • Multiple commenters confirm the presence point from experience, including dates who said "you really are the way you message."
  • Some pushed back: that every woman prioritizes looks, that photogenic men still find the apps useless, and that getting good online builds dating experience that transfers offline.
  • A few flagged online dating as harmful or unreal ("at best you are writing letters"), and several echoed a side remark to avoid nightclubs.