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NEVER ask or text a woman these 3 things or her desire will decrease (female nature explained)

Channel: Casey Zander
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAvTdIQkWC8

Three common text/in-person questions men should never ask a woman, because (per the speaker) they signal interest, neediness, and pursuit, which lowers her desire and fails to satisfy hypergamy.

Key points

  • Core premise: the goal of all communication is to get her to pursue you, not you pursuing her, because women want pre-selected men and seek to satisfy hypergamy. The "player" archetype is lazy and indifferent and will ignore messages for days.
  • The three questions to never ask:
  • "What are you doing today?" -- implies interest, puts you in her frame, and signals your life is less interesting than hers. She wants a man whose life is more interesting than hers.
  • "How's your day going?" -- worse than the first; it is fishing for emotional reassurance that she still likes you, signaling you are scared she will forget you and that you need check-ins to keep the relationship alive.
  • "What are your plans this weekend?" -- planning ahead (e.g. Tuesday for Friday) is validation and "anti-seductive." A truly desired man knows she will drop her existing plans to see him in the moment.
  • More communication does not create higher desire. If you are her number one choice she will not forget you regardless of texting; days of silence do not matter.
  • Become her number one choice instead of relying on texts. Stop texting entirely when there is no need; long messages, exclamation marks, and emojis are over-investment. Keep any message to one or two lines maximum.
  • Women operate on feelings, so a planned perfect date can become a flake the next morning if she does not feel like it.
  • Women past 30 tend to answer these direct questions logically because they communicate more overtly and want to move things at a faster pace without wasting time.
  • What to do instead: never text to make future plans; keep everything in the moment ("come with me, let's go do this") to create vibe and chemistry.

Reception

  • Mixed; many endorse the underlying "be indifferent / don't chase" idea while pushing back on the rigid tactics and worldview.
  • Top comments compress the message: "ignore women and they'll pursue you," "make sure they love you more than you love them," and if she isn't texting you, move on.
  • A widely-liked take reframes it as just living a full life (friends, hobbies, lifting, goals) rather than running texting games; another says indifference comes naturally only with women you don't actually care about, and the hard part is the one you like.
  • Several argue the right woman gives grace and won't be scared off by a polite or normal text; if she pulls back over simple messages, "you dodged a bullet."
  • Notable pushback and mockery: "what a clown show this world is," "these women seem absolutely terrible to deal with," and jokes that the advice reduces to "never look at her, never talk to her, never plan anything."
  • One long anecdote agrees on patience and mirroring her energy, adding that most women won't pursue even when interested because they fear rejection more than men do.