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STOP Chasing a Girl and do this instead (She will Chase You)

Channel: Bobby Rio
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YjiwFlI7Mjo

When a woman pulls back, Bobby argues it is usually a test, and chasing her with "nice guy" behavior fails it; the fix is to preserve uncertainty so she chases you instead.

Key points

  • A woman's interest is illustrated as a triangle, with "uncertainty" at the apex -- the point where interest grows into attraction or obsession.
  • When her texts slow and she is suddenly "busy," it is usually not real busyness but a test (or simply that she liked you less than you thought); nice guys respond with a "nice guy binge": over-texting, confessing feelings, gifts, flowers, sappy emails.
  • The underlying mistake is assuming she is at the same emotional place you are and "giving your hand away too soon," becoming an easy catch -- and "no woman wants an easy catch."
  • Once a woman is certain she has you, especially quickly, attraction dies. The remedy is to recognize the tests and respond confidently, keeping things uncertain.
  • Frames his "scrambler" technique as eliciting the chase "under the radar" so she believes pursuing you was her own idea, and claims a pull-away can still be reversed.

Reception

  • Heavily negative and skeptical; by far the dominant theme is rejection of "games," with the top comment being "the true one will be there for you -- games aren't needed for genuine partners."
  • Many advise simply finding an honest, direct, no-nonsense adult woman who communicates clearly, several sharing that a game-playing partner ended in divorce while a genuine one led to a long happy marriage.
  • A large "just be yourself / keep your dignity" current, including a long upvoted comment that humble confidence replacing desperation is what actually makes a man attractive.
  • Repeated framing that this is emotional manipulation that breeds distrust, that a habitual tester never stops, and that a woman requiring chasing is not worth it.
  • A smaller counterpoint argues times have changed and modern relationships run on games; plus many jokes (chasing a girl down a dark alley, "I only date conehead women") and "I'll stay single" reactions.