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WHOM CAN YOU TRUST | Coach Red Pill

Channel: CRP Archive
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZAIOIP2nRco

The speaker argues that "you can't trust anyone" is a foolish stance: trust is just the ability to anticipate what someone will do, and you earn it by understanding a person's motivation. Applied to relationships, you can fully trust a woman if you share a common, concrete goal.

Key points

  • Trust is something humans extend constantly and implicitly: a pedestrian trusts a car will stop, a customer trusts the McDonald's clerk will return with the food. It works because we understand each other's motivations (the driver fears jail, the clerk wants to keep her job).
  • Trust means knowing what someone will do before they do it. You can trust anyone, including a woman, once you understand what drives them.
  • The right question is not "can I trust her" but "will she betray me." A woman whose motivation is to "have a good time" will leave when the fun stops; a woman whose motivation is a family and children will not risk destroying what she wants.
  • Watch deeds, not just words: if she says she wants a family but parties every night, words and actions mismatch.
  • Saying "you can't trust women" really means "I don't understand what motivates people." The speaker frames this as childish and self-centered, since only children treat the adults around them as acting for random, capricious reasons.
  • He recommends the 19th-century novels (Dostoyevsky, Dickens, Tolstoy, Balzac) and Austen's Pride and Prejudice, which he reads as four sisters who must marry to avoid homelessness, as training in reading human motivation.
  • Shared vision over shared feeling: Bonds of trust are strongest when two people want the same thing. Aiming at a subjective feeling like "happiness" is fickle and will betray you; an objective, specific goal (e.g. three to five children and a loving home), reiterated constantly to each other, lets both partners trust the other when apart.

Reception

  • Broadly admiring; many call it among his most important videos and leave RIP tributes to Gonzalo Lira.
  • Top comments extend the thesis: that you also cannot trust yourself without understanding your own motivation, and that "motivation plus congruent actions equals trustable."
  • Several push back that motivation is not foolproof: people and motivations change (one likens it to a ladder that can slip), and a woman wanting a family may get bored once she has it.
  • Skeptics cite divorce courts and the roughly 50% divorce rate as evidence that shared goals do not guarantee loyalty.
  • One reframes the point as risk assessment: you weigh what you stand to lose (losing five dollars at McDonald's versus handing over cash for a Ferrari).