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Coach Red Pill - All Women are Two Women

Channel: CRP Archive
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZUzMNpJYXeU

The speaker argues every woman is two things at once - her actual personality and her "sexual packaging" - and that men should deliberately ignore the latter to judge the former, which (he claims) makes them both happier and more attractive.

Key points

  • Men constantly confuse a woman's sexual attractiveness (the "packaging") with who she actually is. A hot girlfriend can turn out to be an awful person; a relationship driven purely by attraction often ends a few months in once you actually know her.
  • This confusion is natural from an evolutionary standpoint: nature wants men and women to reproduce, so attraction draws the man in. But for any meaningful long-term relationship, you need to know the actual person.
  • His advice: consciously and deliberately "cleave" the packaging from the person and focus only on who she is.
  • Doing this lowers your anxiety. Desire for an attractive woman makes a man nervous and makes him "spurg out" (act like an idiot); setting the attraction aside makes you calmer, more natural, and therefore more attractive.
  • It also lets you find out whether you actually want to be with her, versus a woman who is fine for a one-night stand but not long-term - and avoids getting trapped (e.g. an unwanted pregnancy with someone awful).
  • Paradoxically, this is what women want: to be focused on as people, not as packaging. He cites the familiar pattern of a female friend you are not attracted to who ends up crazy about you precisely because you focus on her as a person.
  • He likens it to Buddhism (eliminate desire and you eliminate unhappiness) and to chopping wood: aim past the log at the chopping block and you slice clean through.

Reception

  • Tone is largely affectionate and memorial, with many "RIP Coach" / "miss you" comments mourning Gonzalo Lira.
  • Several praised the core idea, summarizing it as "a woman is a body and a personality, and looks do not define the personality."
  • The opening comedic skit (a balsa-wood rubber-band gun, with an Alec Baldwin / Sam Jackson bit) drew amused reactions and jokes.
  • Commenters enjoyed the slang "spurging out" as an accurate description of male approach anxiety.
  • One pushed back on the chopping-wood analogy, arguing that staying rational fails in the "heat of action" where addiction and impulse take over.
  • Another disagreed on attractiveness, claiming the better-looking a woman is the worse she tends to be as a person.