6 Behaviors That Make Someone Chase You¶

Six research-named social and conversational habits the channel says make a crush more drawn to pursue you.

Key points¶

Compliment others -- "spontaneous trait transference": listeners subconsciously associate the positive traits you describe in others with you.
Spend time around them -- the mere-exposure effect (R.B. Zajonc): repeated familiarity makes people prefer your presence.
Mirror them -- the chameleon effect: subtly mimicking a crush's gestures, posture, and expressions builds a sense of familiarity and pull.
Say their name often -- the cocktail-party effect: a person's name cuts through and grabs their selective attention, and signals sincere interest.
Seem capable but human -- Elliot Aronson (University of Texas) found a competent person who makes a small blunder (spilling coffee) was rated more attractive than a flawless one; the mistake "humanizes" them (the pratfall effect).
Be seen with friends -- the cheerleader effect (Walker and Vul, UC San Diego): faces are rated more attractive in a same-gender group than alone, because they trend toward the more-attractive average group face.