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Coach Red Pill - If She Wants To Be With You, She'll Be With You

Channel: CRP Archive
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Y_4uJFtXTI

The speaker argues that a woman who is interested will overcome any obstacle to see a man, so polite excuses and "maybe" are a clear no - and that clinging to false hope is what hurts men.

Key points

  • Core claim: if a woman wants to be with you, she will be with you "come hell or high water"; if she gives smooth, sensible-sounding excuses, she does not want to be with you.
  • Illustrative anecdote: at a film talk he gave at a university in Chile (in his late 30s), an attractive, more mature female student decided early she wanted to go home with him; she eventually told off a younger male student who was tagging along before she left with the speaker.
  • "When a chick says maybe, it is never." Men treat words as literal statements of fact; women treat words as social lubricant, so a woman's polite "maybe" is really a no.
  • The real danger is hope: men cling to a "maybe" hoping it becomes a yes, and repeatedly dashed hope eventually makes a man bitter and stops him hoping at all.
  • A genuinely busy woman signals her interest by proposing alternatives herself - e.g. "I can't Friday, but let's do Thursday" - going out of her way to show she is available.
  • Hope still matters for goals that depend on many factors (career, business, climbing Everest), but not for outcomes that rest on one person's single decision, like whether a woman wants to see you. Read the social signs and move on.

Reception

  • Strong agreement; many commenters say the lesson matches their own experience.
  • Several recount being strung along by attractive women and regretting having believed the excuses.
  • A recurring framing: a woman makes it easy if she likes you, and you should watch what she does, not what she says.
  • Some pushback or nuance: one notes a "maybe" can genuinely be a maybe; another says women keep doors open and may recontact a guy later for sex or favors.
  • Many comments are tributes to Gonzalo Lira ("RIP CRP", "Never forget Gonzalo Lira").