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And all this happens at month 3+ #avoidantattachmentstyle #attachmentstyle #breakup

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aEbYQtUfbRE

Avoidants typically resurface around the 3-month mark, once distractions fade and nostalgia plus loneliness push them to test whether you are still available.

Key points

  • The trigger for an avoidant missing you is a combination of faded distractions, processed loss, nostalgia, and external life pressure (job change, family events, etc.).
  • Their reappearance is usually a low-stakes breadcrumb -- an "I miss you" -- not a genuine bid for reconnection.
  • Decide in advance how you will respond; do not leave your reaction up to the moment.