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When an avoidant registers danger, they run and shutdown

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=axiQBA9aGiQ

An avoidant shuts down during conflict not out of indifference but because conflict feels like danger and silence is the only regulation tool they have.

Key points

  • Shutdown is a self-protective response to perceived danger, not a sign of not caring.
  • Silence functions as the avoidant's only available tool for emotional regulation during conflict.