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WOMEN Want YOU to LEAVE THEM and PULL BACK FIRST (Secrets of FEMALE NATURE shown)

Channel: Casey Zander
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=azXwdqu71sk

Casey Zander argues that commitment crushes a woman's desire, so a man should periodically pull back, create tension, and be willing to leave first to keep her attracted.

Key points

  • Core claim: "commitment crushes desire." Women supposedly need intermittent tension, drama, or chaos to keep feeling attraction; perfect stability and predictability turn them off.
  • The "stable man" who provides, earns six or seven figures, and stays loyal signals a scarcity mindset and low pre-selection, leading her to doubt his value.
  • When she pulls back, the typical man does "more" (more texts, calls, expensive dates) to win approval; the speaker says this is the opposite of what attracts her and pushes her away.
  • Conceal your interest and sexual market value the way he claims women do (slow replies, selective responses) to inflate perceived value; do not chase or pursue.
  • Relationship equity (time invested, vacations, children, chores) means nothing to a woman emotionally. He frames this via hypergamy: her biology optimizes for the strongest mate, defined here as emotional resilience and non-attachment, not muscles or money.
  • Women test constantly, at the first date and 20 years in. The prescribed response to disrespect is "the door is right there," no begging or pleading.
  • The "alpha" stays detached after sex and needs zero intimacy; reciprocating affection (cuddling, hand-holding, good-morning texts) lowers desire.
  • If the woman breaks up first, he claims it is usually over for good because she has lost respect and formed a fixed identity of him.
  • Action steps he gives: bring the drama first, pull back first, and leave for a week or two with no explanation, returning on your own terms.
  • He frames relationships as trading her sexual desire for a "false sense of stability," and says inner peace comes from being content alone.

Reception

  • Strongly approving; many older and divorced men say the video matches their lived experience and wish they had learned it sooner.
  • Several distilled the advice into rules others repeated: care the least, do not get attached, mirror her silence, and bring/pull/leave first.
  • Some described using it tactically, such as dating multiple women so no single one gets full attention, or matching delayed texts with longer delays.
  • A few pushed back on the ethics, saying lying and manipulation to keep a relationship is not worth sacrificing integrity, and to build a personality you like rather than contorting for women.
  • A commenter who identified as a woman said the video helped her understand herself; another noted rare "more logical" women will reject this behavior outright.