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WOMEN crave men who DON'T WANT THEM BACK (Advanced Female Nature)

Channel: Casey Zander
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbrriHuuEe4

The speaker argues women are hardwired to lose interest in men who become emotionally attached and to chase men who stay aloof, so the path to long-term respect is to slow your pursuit and avoid signalling need.

Key points

  • Women perceive attraction differently from men: a woman can be sexually attracted to a man without liking him, and falling in love with his "internal guts" takes a long time horizon of two to four months of consistent contact.
  • Lengthen the time frame early. Over-pursuing, frequent texting, and urgency to set dates signal desperation and start "the countdown to the end."
  • The moment a man becomes emotionally attached, she senses scarcity, which "reveals" his sexual market value -- she concludes he lacks options at her level and pulls away.
  • A high-value man, in the speaker's framing, does not get attached, has genuinely limited time for her (she is not a priority), and thereby satisfies "hypergamy," described as a feeling rather than a measure of income or status on paper.
  • Men are wired to expect return on investment; with women the speaker claims the opposite holds -- the more you invest, the lower-priority you appear.
  • Play for respect, not sex. Sex is said to mean little to women; loyalty, love, and respect come from a man she can look up to.
  • After two to four months of aloof, consistent contact without a defined relationship, she allegedly becomes attached and works for his approval (cooking, gifts, initiating).

Reception

  • Heavily affirming; many commenters call the analysis accurate and say it matches their own dating experience.
  • Several recount exes returning once the man lost interest, framing aloofness as irresistible to women.
  • A recurring refinement: it is about not needing a woman (outcome independence) rather than not wanting her, and keeping your goals and mission first.
  • One commenter identifying as a counsellor of 35 years married said he looked for flawed reasoning and reluctantly agreed with the description.
  • Some pushback: a few call the push-pull dynamic a form of emotional manipulation that healthy men would find exhausting and unsustainable.