The Dark Psychology That Makes People Fall for You! | Robert Greene

Channel: Bold Fella
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0XMmSJteJ4

A montage of Robert Greene interview clips on The Art of Seduction, overlapping heavily with the channel's other seduction compilations. (Re-titled compiled footage; his framework, not cited research.)

Key points

• Seduction is a form of soft power: you give people pleasure so their defenses drop, and then you move them in your direction (in romance, the office, politics, or marketing) - and being indirect works where being direct/forceful repels.
• Modern people lack pleasure and, in a selfish/narcissistic social world, lack genuine attention; supplying both is immensely powerful.
• Get inside the other person's world instead of being obsessed with yourself: learn what they love (childhood things, colors, places) and give it to them.
• The "quote it back" technique: bring up, the next day, something personal they let slip - it shows you were really listening, which almost no one does, and lowers their resistance.
• It works regardless of looks; what matters is understanding the psychology of what the other person is missing.
• Don't be obvious - if they sense you "read The Art of Seduction" and are running a tactic, it fails; it must feel natural, drawn from one of the nine seducer types that fits your character.
• The true coquette genuinely feels ambivalent/hot-and-cold, which is why their coldness lands as real rather than as a game.
• A film that moves you to tears is itself a seduction - letting a director penetrate your psychology; humans have this power, though some people are closed to being seduced.
• Men are seduced more by visuals, women more by words/language (the historical Don Juan figures were great talkers, some physically unattractive).