Why Women Avoid Needy Men

Channel: Dan Bacon
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cT7DaGhF5Ps

The speaker claims women lose interest in men whose confidence depends on a woman's reassurance; lasting attraction comes from "independent confidence" that holds regardless of how she behaves.

Key points

• He distinguishes "independent confidence" from "dependent confidence," where a man only feels confident when a woman is being reassuring.
• He claims women sense when a man needs reassurance and don't want to be stuck constantly reassuring him that they find him attractive or love him.
• He claims women instinctively know their own feelings, mood, and behavior fluctuate through the month with their menstrual cycle, so they want a man who stays confident regardless.
• When meeting a woman for the first time (bar, party), he advises not basing your confidence on how much interest she shows.
• He claims a woman reads a reassurance-dependent man as likely to become insecure and clingy in a relationship, which would not be fun for her.
• He asserts that being confident regardless of how she behaves earns more sex, respect, and love from women.

Reception

• The handful of comments are agreeable, restating the core idea that a man should stand on his own two feet and that needing a woman less makes her want him more.
• One commenter shared a before/after story: he lost a woman by becoming needy and clingy, then applied "steel hard confidence" with a new partner and has kept it relaxed for a year.
• One asked a follow-up question, granting that constant reassurance reads as insecure, but wondering how a man is supposed to know a woman is interested if she does not openly express it.