Healing has been hard, but healing is for everyone #dismissiveavoidant #attachmentstyle

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cVSaU-VJCj8

Mack speaks as a self-identified recovered avoidant, reflecting on the remorse and shame that came after recognizing the harm her avoidant patterns caused, and affirming that healing -- though hard -- is worth it.

Key points

• She did not recognize her own avoidance while it was happening; the pattern only became clear in retrospect after multiple relationships ended.
• Post-breakup, her default sequence was avoidance, distraction, numbing, and only much later, processing.
• She has sought forgiveness from those she hurt and received it, yet still struggles with guilt and shame.
• She cannot hold her past self to the standard of what she knows now; healing requires letting that go.
• Choosing security over avoidance is hard but she does not regret it, and she genuinely likes who she is today.