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This is what happens when YOU IGNORE a Woman

Channel: Casey Zander
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ccAS2stpkmA

The speaker argues that a man should put his own time, attention, and success first, and that doing so -- effectively "ignoring" a woman's bids for excess attention -- makes a woman chase him because it signals genuine high value.

Key points

  • Foundation: put a price on your time (the one asset money can't buy) and a price on your attention. Time plus focus equals high value over the long run.
  • A man should make his own success the number one priority, with specific markers and hit goals -- not just vague ambition -- and keep his needs ahead of the needs of any woman he is dating.
  • Inaccessibility as status: 99-percenters are "too accessible." Analogy to a CEO or a king whom a low-level employee cannot just walk up to -- value comes from not being available to everyone.
  • "If you stop caring, a woman will start chasing" -- but the indifference must be genuine, not a tactic, because women will detect faked high value.
  • A truly high-value man has too much going on to be moved off-center by a woman's texts, tone shifts, or moods; men who are easily destabilized are that way because they are too accessible.
  • All women love attention (positive or negative); ignoring petty or endless bids creates the perception of high value and status.
  • Women are won "psychologically, not logically" -- her perception in her head matters more than a man's resume of accomplishments. Care and love should be a reward for good behavior, not given away freely.
  • Applied to fixing problems (a dead bedroom, nagging, coldness): the speaker says these stem from giving away value until it is worth nothing, and the remedy is to withdraw attention so it regains worth.

Reception

  • Largely positive; many commenters frame the message as broader self-improvement -- staying on purpose, building mentally, physically, and financially "for yourself, not for them."
  • Several share anecdotes of ignoring an ex or a cold partner and watching her re-initiate contact (e.g. demanding to know why a birthday went unacknowledged).
  • A recurring caution: "ignoring" is a tactic women use too, so do not be rattled when it is done back to you.
  • One top comment reframes it as not a "trick" but a natural consequence of being genuinely busy and valuing your time -- echoed by others who say if you are truly busy you won't even notice.
  • A woman commenter agrees, calling it a return to "no contact between dates" that builds anticipation, the way things worked before constant texting.
  • Some pushback: one commenter warns the strategy leads to being "coldhearted, lonely, and single," and another argues confidence is about not comparing yourself to others rather than playing power games.