Your silence doesn't push an avoidant away, it just hits them on a delay¶

No contact does not push an avoidant away -- it hits them on a delay, growing from relief into unsettling silence that forces self-reflection.

Key points¶

Week one: the avoidant feels relief and decompression, not loss.
Weeks two and three: your absence starts to register as they notice the lack of chaos and tension.
Week four and beyond: the silence becomes unfamiliar, then loud and uncomfortable.
Avoidants chase the feeling of safety, not the person; sustained no contact makes them question whether they pushed too far and whether you are truly gone.
Interrupting no contact resets the process; hold position, work on yourself, and let the silence do the work.