(Tina) 3 real examples and what to look out for from your avoidant ex¶

Three concrete examples of what a genuine bid for connection from an avoidant ex looks like, as distinct from a breadcrumb.

Key points¶

A real bid initiates a substantive conversation: "I've been thinking about you -- can we talk about what happened?" showing intention and willingness to go deeper.
A real bid includes accountability: "I realize I hurt you by pulling away and I want to understand how you felt" -- ownership, not deflection.
A real bid expresses a future desire with specificity: "I want to see if we can rebuild -- can we go to dinner this week?" -- clear, actionable, tied to the relationship.
The key difference: a breadcrumb leaves you with more questions; a genuine bid removes the confusion and requires only a yes or no from you.