male avoidants and intimacy in the bedroom¶

Patterns the speaker observes in how avoidant men relate to physical intimacy, presented as descriptive rather than as encouragement of any behavior.

Key points¶

Some avoidant men are open to intimacy early but interest decreases as the relationship progresses; the speaker attributes this to being so detached from emotions that the man does not feel his own need for it, not to lack of love.
They tend to shut down intimacy if they feel their advances are rejected. The speaker says men in general do this, but it is more common with avoidant men, and is not game-playing.
A mechanical issue (such as difficulty maintaining an erection) or difficulty with entrance can make an avoidant man feel like a failure and shut down.
Feeling pressured too much reduces openness; less frequent pressure helps him feel safer.