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This moment is really hard, but you can choose yourself right now, no more self abandonment, no more

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gFgurJ_wlaE

A dialogue-format short walking through the signs that it is time to walk away from an avoidant who shows effort only when you go completely silent and never sustains any change.

Key points

  • Red flags discussed: effort only when the partner goes fully silent, accountability that never sticks, behavior resetting after each apology, and walking on eggshells with no real conflict repair.
  • The avoidant reaching out only to regulate their own nervous system -- not because they prioritize the partner -- is a key indicator.
  • It is okay to choose peace over potential; if you have communicated needs clearly, stayed calm, and given real effort, you can walk away without self-blame.
  • If they feel abandoned by your leaving, that is theirs to grow from -- some people show up later, others do not.