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Save these to your notes and make the decision now to send them when you get your first contact

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jDXJi8rqkUY

Avoidants tend to return the moment you have fully detached, so prepare three boundary-setting texts in advance and decide now, from a regulated place, how you will respond.

Key points

  • The exact moment your energy fully detaches from them is typically when they reappear.
  • Three suggested texts to save: "I'm open to talking, but I'm not interested in repeating old patterns." / "I've taken time to grow, so I'm only interested in something intentional and consistent now." / "It's good to hear from you. What's different this time?"
  • No "I miss you too" mirroring, no fluff -- straight business only.
  • Sending from a regulated, healed place means their response (or non-response) will not destabilize you.