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Any of these three are ok

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kFOKpnEsTWw

When an avoidant ex sends a low-effort breadcrumb, you have three grounded options: silence, a boundary text, or matching their energy -- but only if you are fully regulated.

Key points

  • Silence is valid if you are genuinely past the breakup and want to break the cycle of them having open access to you whenever they want.
  • A boundary text ("I'm not interested in casual reach-outs; if you want a real conversation, I'm open -- otherwise, I wish you the best") sets the bar without drama.
  • Matching their energy ("Nothing much, what's up?") is only safe if you are grounded enough to be okay receiving no reply.
  • Do not call immediately, do not come in fully invested -- meet a breadcrumb at the level it is given, no more.