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Now you get to take your power back

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lZAfNkQUE3s

The moment you stop chasing is the moment the avoidant feels the loss -- they banked on you pursuing them and never prepared for you to walk.

Key points

  • Every time you chased before, you confirmed their belief: "if I create distance, they will close it."
  • Avoidants don't panic when you are emotional; they panic when you go calm and stop over-functioning.
  • When you flip the dynamic they start wondering: did they give up on me, did I miscalculate?
  • Stopping the chase is the moment they feel actual loss -- that is when the power shifts back to you.