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This Bad Boy Trait Makes Women Want You Sexually, But Most Men Are Afraid to Do it

Channel: Dan Bacon
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lbSPPxvStWo

TL;DR: Bacon claims women feel sexual attraction when a man is unpredictable and willing to create a bit of tension, rather than answering every question in a straightforward, agreeable way to seem nice and sensible. He frames this as the "bad boy trait" most men are afraid to use.

Key points

The core claim

  • Most men seek harmony, smoothness, and predictability with attractive women, answering every question straightforwardly to seem serious, logical, and sensible, hoping she will then feel attracted.
  • He claims nearly every man interacts this way, so it makes a man predictable and signals he is hoping to impress her.
  • A "bad boy" instead adds unpredictability, which Bacon says excites women and turns them on, without him having to try hard to win her over.
  • He claims it is socially and emotionally intelligent to know you do not have to answer every question in a straightforward, logical manner.

Attraction vs being liked

  • Bacon claims attraction is different from getting along, being seen as likable, nice, or intelligent.
  • He claims women are not turned on by academic intelligence before sex or kissing, only after; topics like politics, philosophy, mathematics, engineering, and AI do not trigger attraction.
  • He claims women respect a man who decides how he responds rather than treating her as more powerful and hoping she will give him a chance.

Example 1 - "Would you like a bag with that?"

  • Most men say "Yes, thank you" to be reassuring and predictable.
  • Bad boy responses he gives: "No," "Yep" with a blank stare, "A bag? It's only two little things, don't be so wasteful," or "No, I'll be right, thanks. No bag." with swagger.
  • He stresses being a bad boy does not mean being rude; tone, eye contact, vibe, and swagger matter more than the basic words.

Tension and polarity

  • Bacon claims a bad boy is comfortable letting tension exist, while most men try to remove all tension to show there is nothing to feel uncomfortable about.
  • He claims women feel turned on when a man has the "balls" to create tension, reading it as confidence, courage, and manliness.
  • He claims this creates "sexual polarity," a clear masculine-feminine dynamic that makes her want him sexually and want to be attractive to him.

Example 2 - "What do you do for a living?"

  • Most men answer immediately and straightforwardly; he says this is not a dealbreaker but is robotic.
  • Bad boy responses he gives: "Guess," "Take a look at me, what do you think I do?", "I'm looking for a sugar mummy," "I'm looking for a rich girlfriend to pay the bills so I can play PlayStation," "Why are you asking me boring questions like that?", "My job's better than yours."
  • He claims this playful challenge makes her feel she is not in control and needs to impress him.
  • He claims a man saying "Why are you asking me boring questions?" makes a woman laugh yet feel attracted, inferring he is not needy or desperate and that other women must want him, so she should secure the opportunity.

Bacon's stated background and conclusions

  • He says he once had no idea how to attract women, then figured it out, and was with many women over 10 years, often seeing several at once, with women competing to be his "number one girl" and trying to commit to him.
  • He claims that even after settling down, interacting with a young attractive woman in a store works "right away."
  • He says he was not seen as a bad boy for the first ~8 years; the swagger developed around the 8-year mark and takes time, especially for someone used to niceness as a strategy.
  • He claims being nice as a strategy is a failing strategy that yields at most "pity" dates, sex, or relationships, not genuine love.
  • He frames the paradox: the goal is to be unpredictable, but he claims women become very predictable in their attraction responses when a man does this.
  • His final point: a bad boy still answers straightforwardly at times if he feels like it, but reserves the option to respond differently; the unpredictability is what keeps her engaged and not in control.

Reception

  • Enthusiastic engagement, with the comment section turning into a game of inventing their own playful, unpredictable replies to the "would you like a bag?" line.
  • The top comment quotes "Why are you asking me boring questions like that?" and says he will use it; the example lines are the most-cited part of the video.
  • Recurring agreement that the real point is fun, flirty conversation over boring logical talk, with one commenter arguing women read playful teasing as being treated like a human being.
  • Several share their own bad-boy or flirting anecdotes, including a college roommate's outrageous habit and a man whose "bad boy" persona developed naturally once he forced himself to approach more.
  • A high-liked exchange recounts a man flirting with a waitress while his friend tried to "rescue" her, both clearly enjoying it, as proof of the gap between what men assume and what works.
  • Some younger commenters express discouragement about rejections and lost years, drawing reassurance that it is never too late.