. Wo avoidants have a hard time sustaining...because it causes vulnerability and accountability

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mrLgE7-0pB4

Avoidants can show up warmly at the start of a relationship because early connection costs them nothing -- but they lack the emotional endurance to sustain it once real intimacy and accountability are required.

Key points

• Early-stage behavior is curated: avoidants are people-pleasers showing their best self before full exposure or vulnerability is required.
• The shift happens when consistency becomes a requirement rather than excitement -- that is when avoidants back off.
• They fall short not because you are hard to love, but because depth requires healing and accountability they are not ready for.
• They give their best when it costs almost nothing and retreat the moment the relationship starts to ask for more.