Let me know if you recognize these in your dynamic¶

Five warning patterns that signal avoidant attachment in a dynamic, and why seeing them doesn't mean you acted on what you saw.

Key points¶

Get close, then create distance: they open up and lean in, then suddenly need space -- closeness triggered them, not anything you did.
Disappear instead of communicate: when something feels off they shut down and withdraw, leaving you confused.
Return like nothing happened: casual re-entry with no accountability, expecting you to just meet them there.
Give just enough to keep you hooked: occasional effort and affection, never real consistency or stability.
Make you feel like you're asking for too much: your need for clarity and reassurance gets reframed as the problem, so you shrink yourself.