Has this happened to you? #attachmentstyles #avoidantattachment #relationshipadvice

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCxyhUS-Jtc

Avoidants crave closeness only on their own terms -- when they initiate it feels safe, but when you reach for it first they flinch and call it too much.

Key points

• They want intimacy, connection, and to be understood, but only when it doesn't feel like a demand or come with expectations.
• They pull you close when they're ready; when you do the same they shut down or label you needy -- rewriting the story so your desire for connection is the problem.
• You weren't wrong for reaching out; you were loving someone who never learned to receive closeness unless they controlled it.