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How to get any MAN you WANT: The UNBREAKABLE RULE

Channel: Orion Taraban
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qKlgl_98uzI

Part three of Dr. Orion Taraban's "how to get any man you want" series for women. The unbreakable rule: never disrespect the man you want to be with, in any form - it is a trump card that overrides everything else.

Key points

  • Recap of the three-step system: (1) be useful, so you're woven into his daily life (de facto commitment); (2) be the "nastiest version of yourself" sexually, giving him what he can't get elsewhere (de facto exclusivity); (3) honor the unbreakable rule.
  • If a woman does the first two and it still fails, either she has a "love savior complex" (female version of the white knight - choosing broken men to fix, the "Beauty and the Beast delusion") or, more likely, she broke the unbreakable rule.
  • The rule: remove every iota of disrespect from your communication - not a single critical word, contemptuous glance, or impatient sigh. Paraphrasing Solomon: "a wise woman builds a house with her hands and tears it down with her mouth."
  • Men as angel and animal. Disrespecting, criticizing, or attacking a man arouses "the animal" in him; expecting perfect angelic patience in return is unreasonable - "you wouldn't mock a grizzly bear." He is emphatic that men should never fight a woman back; the only move left to a disrespected man is to leave, which is what men do.
  • Disagreement is fine - you don't have to like or agree with everything he does - but you must disagree and correct without disrespect. "Respect is a quality of action": anything done disrespectfully can be done respectfully.
  • The rule covers talking about him too: don't complain about your man to friends, family, or coworkers - it gets back to him and makes you look foolish since you chose him. Safety trick: talk as if he can hear you.
  • Disrespect can be unintentional, and it's his perception that counts, not yours ("the cat decides what milk is good"). Test: use the military/superior-officer frame - if you wouldn't say it that way to your boss, don't say it to your man.
  • Illustrated with an anecdote: a woman told him her boyfriend screamed at her at a Valentine's dinner; when he suggested she may have said something to trigger it, she accused him of taking the man's side and hung up - his point being women often don't want to hear how they contribute to their own difficulties even when they ask.

Reception

  • Overwhelmingly positive on a very high-traffic video (1,800+ comments), dominated by men who say the advice applies to them too. Top comment: men watch these because "society tells men how to behave toward women, but never the other way around."
  • Strong agreement that the core issue is accountability, and that a man who tolerates disrespect long enough gets seen as "less than a man" and eventually left; several recounted their own relationships ending exactly like the Valentine's Day anecdote.
  • Married men and a few women credited the video: one 20-year husband said his wife "never broke the unbreakable rule," and a self-described career-raised woman and a therapist both said women need to hear this.
  • A recurring harder-edged read from men: disrespect is a signal she's already looking to leave or seeking the "victim card," so the move is to walk away; a divorce lawyer and others pushed the "don't marry / get a prenup / stay single" angle given exit costs.
  • Notable pushback: several insisted respect must be mutual and genuinely earned, not owed by role - "a woman can't fake respect for a man she doesn't admire" - and one argued "respect" here is really a demand to be tolerated despite poor leadership.
  • Bill Burr's "instigating penalty" bit was quoted approvingly to frame the yelling/accountability point.