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Do THIS If You Want a Woman to Chase You Forever -- According to Machiavelli

Channel: Dominor
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qyTrxIqDhdA

Argues, citing Machiavelli, that one principle -- strategic scarcity of your time, attention, and presence -- makes people pursue and value you, in romantic and all other relationships, whereas constant availability kills attraction.

Key points

  • Core claim: never be completely available, predictable, or fully accommodating. Constant availability makes you "background"; scarcity makes access to you valuable. Quotes Machiavelli: "men value things more in proportion to their scarcity."
  • The scarcity must be authentic -- the natural result of a genuinely full life (purpose, goals, independent friendships, hobbies) -- not faked busyness, which others see through.

Why it works (claimed psychological mechanisms) - Intermittent reinforcement: variable, uncertain reward drives engagement (like gambling); constant predictable reward dulls it. - Effort-equals-value: things that take effort to obtain are perceived as more valuable. - Need for challenge: people are engaged by pursuing the uncertain, bored by the guaranteed. - Opportunity cost: time from a busy person feels chosen and meaningful. - Mystery: full knowability eliminates intrigue.

How to implement authentically - Build a genuinely full life; keep independent social circles; respond on your own schedule (not games, real other priorities); decline what does not work without over-justifying ("I'm not available that night"); keep hobbies they are not part of; do not make them your sole emotional support; keep goals that demand your focus; keep some mystery about your schedule; be occasionally unpredictable.

  • Claimed payoffs: avoids being taken for granted, preserves personal power (the one who needs the relationship least holds the most power), keeps you interesting, fosters healthy interdependence over dependence, filters toward higher-quality partners, and increases leverage in conflict.

Note: the transcript repeatedly misspells the name (Maria/Machaveli/Makaveli) and offers a single generic Machiavelli quotation rather than specific sourcing.