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turrell? They can come back more than once, but it's not the norm

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s8g6Zl_0WuI

Most avoidants come back only once, and if your silence reads to them as rejection they will disappear for good rather than knock on a door they think is locked twice.

Key points

  • Some avoidants cycle repeatedly -- leaving when things get too close, returning when it feels safe -- but for most it is a single comeback.
  • They return not because they have healed or changed but because the space scared them into thinking you were really gone.
  • They read your stillness as coldness and your boundaries as betrayal; instead of asking if you are still there, they conclude you have moved on and vanish again.
  • Avoidants do not clarify, they conclude -- once they convince themselves you are gone, they will disappear for good even if they still check your page every night.