Sheehan and when they do come back, you need to be ready

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLBHNIePWmo

Avoidants virtually always reach out at least once after a breakup, but their return is rarely for the right reasons, so you need a clear boundary response ready in advance.

Key points

• "Always come back" means at least once; repeat returns vary by individual -- do not count on an endless loop of chances.
• They typically return with curiosity after time numbs their fears, not because they are ready to commit.
• Have a boundary text prepared: acknowledge contact, state that you are only interested if it leads to a meaningful conversation about the relationship, then wish them well.
• Sending that response gives you clarity either way -- a genuine bid will come through regardless, and a hollow one won't waste your energy.