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Be honest, and then, if you get this text, be strong

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUJC64M4Uac

An "I miss you" text from an avoidant ex is not accountability or readiness -- it is loneliness and nostalgia, and accepting it without more usually restarts the same cycle.

Key points

  • "I miss you" means they feel the absence and miss the comfort, not that they have reflected or are ready to show up differently.
  • Worth asking yourself: do you miss them, or do you miss how you felt when they were not pulling away?
  • Treating a nostalgia text as the start of reconciliation is a common trap -- it is more often the start of a new cycle.
  • Love that has history does not restart at nostalgia; it restarts on accountability. Emotions without effort will produce the same outcome.