Replying to @<3 When an avoidant says "I lost feelings," it doesn't always mean the feelings are gone¶

When an avoidant says "I lost feelings," it usually means the safe space for those feelings to exist collapsed -- not that the feelings vanished.

Key points¶

"Lost feelings" often means she got overwhelmed by expectation, pressure, or demands for vulnerability before she was ready.
Avoidants don't fall out of love suddenly; they turn the emotional volume down until they can breathe again.
The real message beneath the words is often: "I stopped feeling safe to feel those feelings with you."
She almost certainly needs space; pushing for more before she has it will reinforce the shutdown.