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4 Things Confident Men Do That Women Love

Channel: Dan Bacon
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tvmA4SZZh60

The speaker claims women are attracted to confidence because they want to look up to and respect a man who is emotionally stronger than they are; he lists four specific behaviors confident men show.

Key points

  • Core premise: women want a man emotionally stronger than themselves; insecurity reads as emotional weakness and is a turn-off, while confidence is an "emotional strength" that triggers sexual attraction.

  • 1. He lets her be her real self. Around an insecure man a woman feels she must tone herself down and manage his emotions; around a confident man she can relax, tease him, and be more feminine/playful without him crumbling.

  • 2. He doesn't second-guess himself. Women trust a man who trusts his own decisions; he need not make perfect or all decisions and can approve her ideas. Visible stalling (on touching, kissing, asking for a number) makes her lose faith and feel she has to "man up" for both of them.

  • 3. He moves through life like he belongs. Confident men take up space and act first (e.g. sitting at empty tables, being first to eat at a function) and others copy them; insecure body language at a bar or party (clutching a drink, checking how he fits in) instantly kills attraction.

  • 4. He touches her without awkwardness. Initiating touch (arm, lower back) is attractive only from a confident frame; hesitant, approval-seeking touch feels "gross." Approval-seeking also signals he may be bullied by other men or seek her approval in a relationship, so she won't feel safe with him regardless of his muscles.

  • Speaker's framing throughout is that women want to be the man's "cheerleader" and follow a man they respect; claims are the speaker's assertions, no studies cited.

Reception

  • Highly favorable; the top comments call the speaker the best dating coach on YouTube and credit him with simplifying things without the "alpha male" posturing.
  • A recurring theme is rejecting over-the-top alpha behavior in favor of being a relaxed, fun, confident guy who does not care what others think; one shares a club anecdote of a "nerdy" bad dancer attracting 10/10 women while "cool" guys struck out.
  • Several share applications of the "act like you belong" point, including walking confidently past a long line at Notre Dame, and a married man says taking back leadership "saved my marriage" by restoring polarity.
  • A subset of comments drift into off-topic 2020 mask/vaccine talk framed as a confidence test, which the speaker engages briefly.
  • A few express the opposite reaction, feeling the video explains why they will "die alone" or that they fall apart specifically around attractive women.