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10 Myths Women Believe About Divorce

Channel: John Griffin (Life 2.0)
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uXUewOwV4AA

Lists myths he says women repeat among themselves about divorce - that it will make them happier and richer - and argues divorce usually leaves women worse off.

Key points

  • Opens with a "divorce contagion" claim: if one woman in a wife's social circle divorces, the other husbands are likely to face divorce or marital strife within a year or two, driven by misinformation women share with each other.
  • Myth 1 - Happier after divorce - Says statistically women suffer worse than men post-divorce; most do not improve their lives, and the woman who divorces first hides the misery from her friends.
  • Myth 2 - Upgrade to a better man - Claims men are wired to seek young fertile women, so older divorced women (especially with children) rarely upgrade; jokes a 40-year-old is "more likely to be kidnapped by terrorists than remarried."
  • Myth 3 - Validation/alimony will fulfill them - Women set on external validation will not find it; they are "scared little bunny rabbits in the woods filled with foxes."
  • Myth 4 - Catching you cheating helps in court - Under no-fault divorce, fault and the moral high ground do not matter to the judge.
  • Myth 5 - Guaranteed custody - Courts now favor shared custody; men who fight hard ("go for the jugular") can win half or full custody.
  • Myth 6 - Filing first is an advantage - No-fault means who files first is irrelevant.
  • Myth 7 - All ties are cut - Especially with kids, you deal with each other for years; divorce changes the relationship rather than ending it.
  • Myth 8 - There will be a dramatic court trial - He estimates 80-90% settle in lawyers' offices with no courtroom catharsis; the drama is all pre-filing.
  • Myth 9 - Guaranteed alimony - Recounts that when he divorced, his income had dropped from 150-250k to ~52k so there was no alimony to take; his daughters stayed with him and his ex paid him child support for four years. Notes alimony can flow to men too.
  • Myth 10 - Consent needed / she gets the house - No-fault means no consent is required (can proceed in absentia); the house is just a financial asset to split, not a prize.
  • Bottom line: divorce is a miserable, years-long experience for both sexes; the best way to avoid it is not to get married, and men are more naturally suited to independence than women.

Reception

  • Sentiment is strongly affirming and anecdote-heavy, with many divorced men sharing stories that the wife who initiated ended up worse off ("She played herself"; "My ex-wife downgraded for a loser").
  • The top comment is practical advice: once a woman wants a divorce, do not beg to reconcile - it does no good.
  • The divorce-contagion claim resonated, with one commenter describing how an entire street divorced within a couple years after one neighbor wife started.
  • Recurring framing of divorce as financial liberation despite losses ("I'm not losing half, I'm gaining half"; "more peace, money and toilet paper") and the quip "Best way to avoid divorce is don't get married."
  • A family-law attorney's husband relayed that many initiating wives later seek reconciliation, often for money or loneliness, after being "run through by Chad and Tyrone."
  • A minority dissent: one commenter ("call me a simp") said the video brought back painful memories and that he still loves his lost partner.