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Girlfriend told me that her friends love men who bang them once a month but never call or text them

Channel: Casey Zander
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v9uujrM1wdQ

The speaker argues that women are most attracted to men who do exactly what they want and do not care about gaining approval, using his girlfriend's report that her friends pine for men who sleep with them once a month and never call.

Key points

  • The anecdote: the girlfriend's friends are "head over heels" for men who bang them once a month and only text at midnight, not for rich or high-status men.
  • The "bum" who wins is not playing games; he simply does not care when or whether he contacts the woman, and that indifference is what she chases.
  • The speaker's core claim: a man's sexual market value correlates directly with how little he cares about a woman's approval.
  • Women say they want an honest, stable, loyal, high-earning provider, but their actions go the exact opposite direction; only a man who does what he wants reads as "alpha."
  • He frames modern men as emasculated from childhood (controlled by mothers, teachers, society) into "corporate slaves" who shape every choice -- house, car, clothes -- around gaining female approval and avoiding disapproval.
  • The more a man tries to become what he thinks a woman wants, the less she likes him; example given of a nice, degreed, mortgage-paying husband whose wife cheats with a jobless man.
  • Personal coda: as he ages he claims to want nothing -- one chair, one blanket, one hoodie -- and finds not caring about status or possessions freeing.

Reception

  • Broadly agreeing and approving, with the most-liked threads adding caveats rather than disputing the premise.
  • Top comments warn the girlfriend "is just like" her friends and is really describing herself or testing his response ("birds of a feather flock together").
  • A high-rated pushback argues women tolerate the once-a-month treatment because the man is hot, not because he doesn't care; "not caring" without looks won't work.
  • Several frame the takeaway as life advice: stop caring, stop chasing, build a roster, or "stay single."
  • Some redirect away from women entirely (faith, treating women as friends with benefits), and a few share their own breakup or healing struggles.