How To Psychologically Attract Someone¶

Six research-cited tactics the channel claims will make a crush start viewing you romantically.

Key points¶

Share a secret (and keep theirs). A 2009 study (Cottrell, Neuberg, Li) found people rate trustworthiness and trustingness as extremely important in relationships; revealing a small secret early signals trust and brings you closer.
Date within your league. Hatfield's 1966 matching hypothesis (per the APA) holds people form successful relationships with someone of similar social value, especially similar physical attractiveness; the similarity is greater for romantic couples than friends.
Project confidence with open body language. Keep your chest and torso open, avoid crossing your arms; closed posture reads as unavailable, while approachability invites a crush to approach you.
Let them know you like them. Reciprocity of attraction (reciprocal liking): a 1959 Human Relations study found subjects most liked the people they were told liked them first.
Pick a dimly lit date spot. A Scientific American study found men rated the same woman with larger pupils as softer and prettier than with small pupils (rated cold and selfish); dim light dilates pupils, so candlelit settings are an attractive choice.
Have deep conversations and use reflective listening. Harvard research found meaningful self-disclosure activates brain regions tied to food and sex, building more closeness than small talk; paraphrasing what someone says (reflective listening) increases disclosure, supported by a 2007 American Journal of Psychotherapy study.