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5 Signs an Avoidant is ACTUALLY INTERESTED (Not Just Attracted!) ?<3?

Channel: Thais Gibson - Personal Development School
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVSApD3zh_g

Five signs to gauge whether a stoic avoidant is romantically interested rather than just physically attracted, with a self-scoring system (0, 0.5, or 1 point each).

Key points

  • Initiating real plans. Genuine interest shows up as concerted effort to plan actual dates (brunch, rock climbing, a boat outing), versus pure physical attraction that defaults to late-night, bar, or hangout settings.
  • Acts of service. Because affirmation and touch feel vulnerable, interested avoidants show care through less-vulnerable gestures: dropping off soup when you are sick, bringing food you like, airport rides, dealing with your flat tire. A complete absence of these is a poor sign.
  • Lightly consistent communication. After two to three months, expect contact about five days a week -- not over the top, just steady (good-morning texts, check-ins, memes). Once-a-week, last-minute, late-night contact signals low interest.
  • Subtle words of affirmation. Not "I love you" early on, but lower-vulnerability validating comments like "looking forward to seeing you this weekend" or "we are going to have so much fun."
  • Opening up. Slower than other styles, but they share personal things -- childhood, fears, family -- and may introduce you to friends and family.
  • Score the five signs to read overall interest; the closing note stresses also honoring your own needs and leaving if interest or health is lacking.