Don't be afraid to ask, you all need to know

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wW0hO6I9uM8

After dating an avoidant, Mack urges people to ask about attachment style early -- on a first few dates or even on the apps -- before investing emotionally.

Key points

• One experience with an avoidant is often enough to make the cost clear; asking early prevents repeating it.
• If someone doesn't know their attachment style, it's roughly 50/50 between secure and avoidant -- anxious people almost always already know they're anxious.
• Some people genuinely suit an avoidant partner (if they value independence and space themselves), but that fit should be identified consciously, not discovered painfully.