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Have you seen these signs? Let me know and I'll try to address them in the comments

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xCa9RSiZRfk

An avoidant who misses you will show it indirectly and inconsistently rather than saying it, because naming the feeling requires vulnerability they resist.

Key points

  • They check in without direct contact: watching your stories, asking mutual friends, liking old posts -- staying informed while avoiding the risk of vulnerability.
  • They run hot and cold when they do reach out: engaged one day, distant the next, wanting connection and distance simultaneously.
  • They revisit memories unprompted -- people don't accidentally revisit emotional memories; something is still emotionally unresolved for them.
  • Their biggest tell is doing everything except saying they miss you (sending a meme, reacting to a story) -- saying it outright would mean identifying and facing what they feel, which is too much of an ask.