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Dating Strategies I Shouldn't Be Teaching You..

Channel: Karisma King
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yU37FZNNCgA

A 15-year pickup-industry coach (ex-RSD, Endless Options, Girls Chase) runs through "cancelable" nightlife and dating-app tactics for men - group manipulation, physical escalation, logistics, and abundance/funnel management.

Key points

Group dynamics

  • We-frames (credited to Todd Valentine): manufacture inside jokes with a target so you feel like an entangled "us versus them" unit. Example - in a loud venue, give each girl in a group a fake name, then tell your target the "joke" and ask her not to ruin it, creating artificial closeness.
  • Be the social centerpiece who introduces separate groups to each other; by pulling everyone together you become the leader by default.
  • Jealousy plots: before declaring intent, flirt with every girl in a group so each wonders if you like her. Leveraging preselection, her friends start competing for you, and the more they invest the more they want to win.

Logistics and escalation

  • Get logistics early - where she works/lives, who she is with, who the designated driver is - so you can be the problem-solver who overcomes obstacles to taking her home. If her place is unworkable, baby-step her toward yours.
  • Use an escalation ladder: start with light touch (back of the elbow, back of hand, two fingers), then side hugs, hugs, hand-holding, close talking, kiss, isolation, neck, inner thigh. Read body language - if shoulders rise or face scrunches, back off.
  • Two steps forward, one step back: when she reacts, retreat to the last thing she was comfortable with, then advance again, ideally via a different move so you do not re-trigger the same reaction.
  • Change directions (learned from RSD coach Marcus): get her physically walking by proposing a nearby spot ("bar up the street, we'll come right back"), then redirect - once she has said yes to the first premise, a longer walk (toward your place) is an easier yes. He calls it effective but "a little dishonest."

Abundance and funnel

  • Do not lock down the first girl who says yes; build abundance first, play the field, then choose. Women prefer a man proficient with women, so settle down from a position of abundance, not desperation.
  • Run dating like a salesman: keep a spreadsheet of every number (how far you got, kissed, dates, sex). Re-warm slow leads with memes, and route lukewarm prospects into a private Instagram friend-group fed proven high-performing stories/posts to "pump her value" before re-approaching.

Body, apps, and photos

  • Three of his clients "fixed their game" via TRT / testosterone shots when bloodwork showed extremely low levels and low drive; he also lists natural boosters (gym, clean eating, meditation). He does not currently take it himself.
  • Edit your dating photos. Treat it as a 1% game: rate photos on PhotoFeeler / Hot or Not, order best-to-worst, make the first background colorful so women hesitate instead of reflex-swiping left. Goal is the best version of you, not a different person.
  • Claims over-edited photos did not hurt him on dates because his high social proficiency made women "backwards rationalize" that the photos matched him; shy/in-your-head guys get their photos nitpicked. Cites the "Baxter fat-suit" experiment as evidence that women do not care about looks if you do not care about looks - and tells viewers to field-test it.

Note: the video presents pickup tactics as fact; the TRT and "photos don't matter" claims are the speaker's anecdotes, with no data cited.

Reception

  • Very few comments (12 total), mostly positive and from regulars thanking him for the social-circle approach and consistency.
  • The most engagement was in the host's own follow-up replies, where he added tips: do not over-make-out (make her work for it, sell on "lack of risk"), and use Instagram reel comments strategically while avoiding political content.
  • One viewer asked a practical follow-up on transitioning a makeout into a "pull"; another chatted about hair-loss treatments (minoxidil/finasteride) after the host mentioned them.