3 months, then I broke up with him, then 5-6 weeks later, I went back, and he said yes¶
Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ylw80FBUDno
Mack describes her own avoidant pattern in a 3-month relationship: a slow fade over the final weeks, a brief breakup conversation, then reaching out to reconcile after 5-6 weeks of no contact.
Key points¶
- She used classic avoidant tactics during the fade: claiming busyness, slowing responses, withdrawing emotional effort completely before ending things.
- The breakup itself was a 5-minute conversation; he accepted it calmly and left.
- They had an exclusive-dating arrangement with no label -- her own avoidant resistance to commitment.
- After about 5-6 weeks of no contact she reached out and he agreed to reconcile.