I know this sucks, and I am so sorry #avoidantattachmentstyle #dismissiveavoidant¶

When avoidants return after leaving, it is almost never with a genuine bid for reconnection -- expect a breadcrumb, not a comeback.

Key points¶

Avoidants typically reach out when something good is happening in their own life and they have momentum, not because they have resolved anything.
The contact usually takes a low-stakes form: news about their life, a nostalgic reference, a reaction, or a random picture -- not a direct conversation about the relationship.
Mack advises being prepared for the return to be a breadcrumb even if it sounds like it might lead somewhere.